You know that moment when you ask your partner what he's really thinking about? And he responds with a casual "Oh, nothing," but you know there's something else going on in his brain? There are some things men just don't want to share, but a bunch of guys opened up in a recent Reddit thread and answered the critical question: "What secrets do men not want women to know? But be warned: Some are kinda gross. And, yes, every time you bring him up it makes me want to kick you out the damn car. You may not realize, but I can tell you that without even blinking he would have sex with you despite being in a long-term relationship. Sorry to break that news to you. It's bullshit, but a lot of us were told our whole lives that our emotions were bad and to repress that shit in a toxic way. Any compliment we get, even if we answer with a grunt, will be cherished until the day we die.
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I was 16, a size 14 and it was — long before body positivity hit the mainstream or my Tumblr feed. Now, as a year-old woman wearing a size 20, the shagging game has changed year on year as my body has gotten bigger and the dating pool has gotten smaller. The latter is the most insulting.
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I spent the first 16 years of my life as a plus-sized girl. During that time, I rarely ever felt like I was beautiful. And it was hard to see myself as attractive when the media bombarded me with images of thin and beautiful women all the time. It was hard for me to accept how I looked when I was constantly pressured into going on diets to lose weight. Being told that I should take smaller portions of food, or having people assume that I was incapable of doing certain things because of my weight was not only rude, but it also took a huge toll on my self-esteem. It even got to a point where I started to believe that I looked unattractive because of my size. I learned that, in spite of what society may think, you can be both fat and fabulous. I hear this phrase a lot. That is insulting.
I was cautious. He was persuasive, his eyes bright and warm as we spoke. We were, and I did.